Bettering Yourself to Be More Attractive

It Starts with What Type of Single You Are

By Yvonne Stegall

Depending on how long you have been single, sometimes it’s that alone time that has made it more difficult for you to find someone to spend your life with, if you’ve been wanting that anyway. Maybe you want to be alone, but maybe you’re just single, still, because you don’t know how to share your life with another person.

The “attractive” in the title of this isn’t about putting on makeup or getting a new suit, it’s about making sure that you are someone other people want to spend time with, and maybe get intimate with. There are a few different categories of person you could fit into when it comes to being an unattractive mate.

You Are the Type That Just Doesn’t Care

Maybe it’s because you’ve just been on your own for too long, or maybe it’s just that you really don’t care. These are usually the people that are set in their ways and they aren’t going to change for anyone. While you shouldn’t have to change to find love, sometimes you do need to do things a little differently.

You don’t need to overhaul your entire life, but you do need to make sure that you have made some room to let someone else into your life if you are hoping to someday no longer be single. That could mean getting rid of some of your toy collection or it could mean wearing something other than pajama pants to Walmart.

The main thing is that you need to start caring about having someone in your life and keeping them there if that is something you intend to do someday. If there is no room for them then you will never find them.

You Are the Type That Is Too Needy

This goes for the men just as much as it does for the ladies. If you are being too needy you are never going to get into a serious relationship. If you are planning your future wedding and picking out your kid’s names during your first or second date, you are far too needy and you need to calm that shit down.

Take some time to get to know people you date, or even people you simply interact with on a daily basis. Your pushiness to be something more than single may be the very reason you’ll always be single. Try playing hard to get once in a while.

You Are the Type That Gives It Too Easy

Speaking of hard to get, you should also refrain from being the person that jumps into the sack on the first date (or before the first date even happens). Sure, some relationships that start with sex on the first date grow into love, but like they say, “Why marry the cow when you can get the milk for free.” OK, that’s not exactly how the quote goes, but if you are easy you come off as someone that’s more fun as a romp in the hay than a girlfriend or boyfriend.

The important thing to remember is that there is someone out there for everyone; gay, straight, or in between. You just have to open yourself up to finding that person that completes you and compliments your life. They are out there; you just need to know where to look.

Next week we will talk about some of the places you can look for dates, whether you want something serious or you just want to have some fun.

Published January 21st, 2016

Yvonne Stegall is a professional freelance writer who got her start in music reviews. She managed to build on that love of writing and became editor of the music magazine she did reviews for. Since then, Yvonne has gone on to write on many subjects, including health & wellness and beer.