Put Yourself Out There

Quit Dating Your Computer

By Yvonne Stegall

2/11/2016 12:00:00 AMWith the online and app dating world you never really need to leave the house to find the perfect match. And, of course, these sites all compare your interests and lifestyles to help you find someone that is perfect for you, right? Did it work? 

Well, if you're still reading this singles column it must not have. So now what? You could go back to the old-fashioned way of doing things -- leave the house and actually meet people face to face. Get to know them that way, and maybe you'll find someone worth asking out.

Join A Singles Club

Yes, singles clubs do exist. You might be able to find some by visiting a site like Meetups, or there might even be an ad in your local paper. You could also consider starting your own. You can simply find a venue to host it and put an ad in the paper inviting singles to come along. Make it something fun, like a themed party or even karaoke. You want to do things that help the people loosen up,  and then they'll have more fun getting to know the other singles, maybe even find a good match.

Try Speed Dating

While speed dating may seem like a fad of yesteryear, it does still exist in some places. You may need to still get online and do some research to find a place hosting an even. This type of dating event allows you to talk to a person for an allotted amount of time before moving on to the next person. Make sure you collect names and numbers if anyone seems interesting. Even if they find a different match that night it doesn't mean it was the right match.

Don't Fear the Bar Scene

Ok, most dating columns and articles will tell you that nothing good ever comes out of a relationship started at a bar. However, if you take some time and start asking around, it's likely you'll find a few people who found their true love among the bar stools and bottles of booze. Obviously, if you're looking for something lasting, you don't want to pick the drunkest person in the bar to flirt with. However, if you just want a little fun for one night, they might be the best bet.

Try a Matchmaker

If you want to get a little more personal than a matchmaking app or test on a website, you can look for an actual matchmaker. Yes, those still exist as well. This is a person who has a knack for knowing compatible types of people and their main goal is to find you love, or simply dates, whatever it is you look for in the world of dating. Just go in, tell them who you are and what you're looking for and you'll be on the way.

Just Visit Some of Your Favorite Places

Seriously, one of the best ways to find other singles is just to get out and do the things you like to do, and don't be afraid to talk to the other people there. If you're a dog person, a trip to the dog park with your pooch is a great way to maybe run into another dog-loving single. Geeks could find their Princess Leia or Han Solo at a Comic Con. When it comes to this, the ideas are endless. Do what you love and what you like, and quit looking so hard. You know, they always say love will come when you aren't looking for it, or when you least expect it.

Published February 11th, 2016


Yvonne Stegall is a professional freelance writer who got her start in music reviews. She managed to build on that love of writing and became editor of the music magazine she did reviews for. Since then, Yvonne has gone on to write on many subjects, including health & wellness and beer. https://www.facebook.com/WriterYvonne